Why You Can't Have or Keep a Quality Relationship with a GOOD Man Pt. 3

The Secret of Successful Negotiation

Not long after our second child was born, my wife and I decided to trade in the sedan for an SUV. After doing our research and taking several test drives, we settled on the make and model we wanted. It was a just released model by a top rated manufacturer, so they were selling several thousand dollars above the sticker price.

We went to the dealer and found the one we wanted. Then came the fun part, the negotiation. I told my wife that our strategy was simple. If the dealer didn't meet OUR price for the vehicle, we were simply going to get up and walk out. So the manager wrote his price on the sales sheet. I took his pen, crossed it out, and wrote the number we were willing to pay. He said he couldn't sell the car at that price. We headed for the door. Long story short, we drove off the lot that day in our new SUV, having paid our price.

Here's the secret: you wield much power when you're willing to walk away.

Here's why the men in your life keep disrespecting you: When he does something crazy you have an emotional outburst. You scream, holler, have a fit, maybe even cut him off...for a minute. It rolls off our back, because we know that if we wait and sweet talk you enough, you'll take us back. That is, until we mess up again, and then the cycle starts all over.

 Men respond to action, not emotion. In fact, the less emotion attached to your actions, the greater the impact.

One of the reasons my wife has my love AND respect is that early on, without any histrionics, she made it very clear that if I cut the fool, she would not hesitate to act in her own best interests.

"But I luuuuuuuuuuuuuuvded him!"

There comes a time when you have to set your emotions aside, difficult and painful as it is, and take action on your behalf.

Learn to Appreciate Your Own Company

Here's a dare: Go out on a date. Have a nice dinner, then enjoy a movie or concert. Then perhaps dessert or coffee. Have a good time.

Here's the catch- you need to do it alone.

If you've one of those women who would rather die than even consider going out by yourself, you are incapable of manifesting the power I'm talking about, and men know it. Think about it... if you don't enjoy your own company, what makes you think anyone else will?