Too Available, too Soon
I know a woman we'll call Harriet. Harriet just doesn't understand men at all. Harriet wants to be married. She is quite attractive, and has never had any trouble getting a man's attention. Yet in her early forties Harriet is unmarried, with no prospects on the horizon, because she still hasn't learned the rules of the game.
Here's how it goes. She meets a guy. They go out. Have a good time. Harriet is feeling like this could be the one. By the second or third meeting Harriet has given up the goods, and then is shocked when they stop calling.
As I said in a previous post, men are about action. We are doers. It's why we climb mountains. It's why we build buildings, and businesses. It's why we strive for achievement in our chosen field of endeavor. G-d has hard wired us this way, so we could be His agents of change on the Earth.
Cheapening Your Brand
Fair or not, men place women in categories. Potential long term mate, practice chick, kick it buddy, none of the above, etc. Because men are so achievement oriented, we tend not to value that which costs us little or nothing. A man values a woman who knows her worth. A woman who has things to do and places to go. A woman who isn't going for the okie-doke.
A GOOD man knows that a good woman is a treasure. A GOOD man doesn't go shopping for a life partner at the dollar store. If we know we can have you for the low price of a little time and attention and a few well placed compliments, you have relegated your brand to the bargain basement. And you will be treated accordingly.
If you are trying to brand yourself as a potential wife, get this: GOOD men don't marry women who make themselves too physically OR emotionally available, too soon. Corporations spend millions creating, perfecting and protecting their brands. Your brand is too valuable to throw away because you're too lazy or too scared to maintain it.
I know a woman we'll call Harriet. Harriet just doesn't understand men at all. Harriet wants to be married. She is quite attractive, and has never had any trouble getting a man's attention. Yet in her early forties Harriet is unmarried, with no prospects on the horizon, because she still hasn't learned the rules of the game.
Here's how it goes. She meets a guy. They go out. Have a good time. Harriet is feeling like this could be the one. By the second or third meeting Harriet has given up the goods, and then is shocked when they stop calling.
As I said in a previous post, men are about action. We are doers. It's why we climb mountains. It's why we build buildings, and businesses. It's why we strive for achievement in our chosen field of endeavor. G-d has hard wired us this way, so we could be His agents of change on the Earth.
Cheapening Your Brand
Fair or not, men place women in categories. Potential long term mate, practice chick, kick it buddy, none of the above, etc. Because men are so achievement oriented, we tend not to value that which costs us little or nothing. A man values a woman who knows her worth. A woman who has things to do and places to go. A woman who isn't going for the okie-doke.
A GOOD man knows that a good woman is a treasure. A GOOD man doesn't go shopping for a life partner at the dollar store. If we know we can have you for the low price of a little time and attention and a few well placed compliments, you have relegated your brand to the bargain basement. And you will be treated accordingly.
If you are trying to brand yourself as a potential wife, get this: GOOD men don't marry women who make themselves too physically OR emotionally available, too soon. Corporations spend millions creating, perfecting and protecting their brands. Your brand is too valuable to throw away because you're too lazy or too scared to maintain it.
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